This is a book review that is mainly filled with excerpts that will probably make you want to pick this amazing book and read it. In this review I’m going to share a few excerpts that really hit hard or were so relatable that it almost felt like a personal attack 🙂
The title itself was a curious one that made me crave to read this book almost 3 years ago and when I read the book I was so freaking happy that it lived up to its name in all the right places.
Sometimes ‘we’ are the cause of our difficulties. And if we can step out of our own way, something astonishing happens.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
This book started off as any normal book would, with a premise setting of the story, what the author was going through (Because it is non-fiction) and how it relates to her own experience and observations. Some things in this book though, are so damn beautiful that it just took my breath away and I was forced to say “WOW” with a quiet content sigh.
Will you see the human in my being
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Sounds profound right? That’s how it felt. The feeling of loss is so great in this book that my eyes teared up so so many times that it made me want to gently shove this book in everyone’s face so that they read it.
So, through my blog post I’m gonna deliberately but gently shove this book in your faces with these amazing excepts, so that you’ll pick this book up.
Pushing aside emotions only makes them stronger.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
A few new theories and terms made me laugh, tear up, feel, wonder, think and at one point even made me reflect very strongly, here’s an example.
In idiot compassion, you avoid rocking the boat to spare people’s feelings, even though the boat needs rocking and your compassion ends up being more harmful than your honesty
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Numbness isn’t the absence of feelings it’s a response to being overwhelmed by too many feelings
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
There were things told about pain that just made so much sense while reading that it just made me stop, stare and think.
You’re going to have to feel pain – everyone feels pain at times – but you don’t have to suffer so much. You’re not choosing the pain, but you’re choosing the suffering.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
The instances about living in the present because of the uncertainty of death was deeply intriguing.
We think we make bucket lists to ward off regret, but really they help us to ward off death.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Most things worth doing are difficult.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Here is an excerpt on why we are afraid and this paragraph just made me think for a very long time about each and every word and reflect on it.
So many of our destructive behaviors take root in an emotional void, an emptiness that calls out for something to fill it.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
The emphasis on change and how hard it is, is beautifully written in this book… Some very relatable and raw truths also make an appearance.
Whenever one person in a family system starts to make changes, even if the changes are healthy and positive, it’s not unusual for other members in this system to do everything they can to maintain the status quo and bring things back to homeostasis.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
People need to do the same thing over and over a seemingly ridiculous number of times before they’re ready to change.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Few beautiful ideas that are so meaningful and they just needed to be read to help me realize how true they are.
PEACE. IT DOES NOT MEAN TO BE IN A PLACE WHERE THERE IS NO NOISE, TROUBLE OR HARD WORK. IT MEANS TO BE IN THE MIDST OF THOSE THINGS AND STILL BECALM IN YOUR HEART.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Einstein: “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it”
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
A very new thing that I learned from this book…
Touch is a deep human need. Touch can lower blood pressure and stress levels, boost moods and immune systems. Babies can die from lack of touch. There is even a term for this condition: Skin hunger.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
The power and importance of silence in one chapter just made so much sense.
It’s only in silence that people can truly hear themselves. Talking can keep people in their heads and safely away from their emotions. Being silent is like emptying the trash. When you stop tossing junk into the void – words, words, and more words – something important rises to the surface.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
The importance and need that humans have for drama in daily life and why… The identification of our feelings as adults and why some of us have a warped version of it is so evident. I can relate it to students that I teach too.
Sometimes “drama,” no matter how unpleasant, can be a form of self-medication, a way to calm ourselves down by avoiding the crisis brewing inside.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Sometimes people can’t identify their feelings because they were talked out of them as children. The child says, “I’m angry,” and the parent says, “Really? Over such a tiny thing? You’re so sensitive!”
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Almost every woman I see apologizes for her feelings, especially her tears.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
This hit me the most. It’s true, even me, be it an argument at home or elsewhere if I wanna cry and am crying the first thing I say is “Sorry I’m crying but…”
The chapter titled ‘Speed of want’ was so amazing, it resonated with me from the very start to the end.
After all, it wasn’t that psychotherapy didn’t work. It was that it didn’t work fast enough for today’s patients, who were now, tellingly, called “consumers”.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
People didn’t use extra time earned to relax or connect with friends or family. Instead, they tried to cram more in.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
The second people felt alone, usually in the space between things – they picked up devices and ran away from that feeling. In a state of perpetual distraction, they seemed to be losing the ability to be with others and losing their ability to be with themselves.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
A little biology of the nervous system to our behavior, how we can consciously change it and also improve ourselves for our wellbeing.
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Oh the biased controversial topic between us and our previous generation parents…
They strive to give their children all the things they themselves didn’t have, but they sometimes end up, without even realizing it, resenting their kids for their good fortune.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
A precious nugget…
When we give our minds space to wander, they take us to the most unexpected and interesting places.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
The ability to say Yes or No….
The inability to say no is largely about approval-seeking – people imagine that if they say no, they won’t be loved by others. The ability to say yes, however – to intimacy, a job opportunity, an alcohol program – is more about lack of trust in oneself.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Sometimes what seems like setting a boundary – saying no – is actually a cop-out, an inverted way of avoiding saying yes.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
A useful tip
There’s no hierarchy of pain. Suffering shouldn’t be ranked, because pain is not a contest.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
The most evident truths..
The nature of life is change and the nature of people is to resist change.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Failure is part of being human.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
Iron man also believed this and I live by this even though it’s hard to do in a world surrounded by people who don’t care.
Leaving the world a better place than we find it.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
A final line that made me realise how powerful we can be for ourselves
The fact that they picked up the phone and decided to come to therapy and then work through things every week is something no one else could do for them.
Excerpt from Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb
That’s it! That’s my review for this book. A excerpts filled review that gives you an idea that the book is wonderful, these are tiny snippets from the huge book. The overall feeling of the book was one of reflection, understanding and wonder for me and I urge you all to pick this book up for a good read.
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